Sun Run, People and Rants…
Christina
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Today was a long, busy, people-filled day. It’s a day of craziness, insanity and people. Today was the 25th anniversary of the Vancouver Sun Run. This is my seventh time running it — in a row. It was a lot of fun to be out there with the gang, working hard towards our goals. But I realized that I really haven’t been doing much to build my training, it’s been maintenance more or less — perhaps less given I’ve been sick for so often this winter.
But it also means that I have realized that I need to focus on me. I need to focus on building my fitness. I don’t know how to adjust my finances to afford it, but I really need to afford what I need to do. This means I need to reduce my spending as much as possible. I really need to take time to figure out how to do this. Because when I am fit, I am confident. When I am confident I am happier. When I am happier I am more at peace with my day to day life even with the stresses.
So tomorrow, I will be figuring this all out.
After the run we all had our annual post-race lunch. At the lunch I was chatting with a friend, and the topic of relationships, playing “the game”, flirting and showing all this to someone. This brings up my usual rant about this city. I’m too tired to get into the rant right now, but suffice it to say, I don’t want to have to chase a guy. I don’t want to have to pursue a guy and ‘convince’ him that he should date me. If a guy is interested in me, I’d like him to show it. I will certainly respond if a guy flirts (and I’m interested), but I don’t want to have to chase. So being told that I need to chase, be the one to walk up to the guy in the bar, ask the guy out. No thanks. As I mentioned when ranting about this a few months ago:
Bah. I wanted to deck my friend. This is why, I’m going to do what I need to do right now, and as soon as that’s over I’m going to get out of this city. I hope. Because really, I’ve spent time in other cities, countries and guess what? It’s Vancouver. Grumble.
Katie
Hi nice blog 🙂 I can see a lot of effort has been put in.
Katie
Hi nice blog 🙂 I can see a lot of effort has been put in.
Joanne
Hi Christina!
I hope you don’t mind that I’ve been reading your blog (Mel’s links to it)
Just wanted to chime in on the asking guys out thing.
My take? Don’t do it. I’m a firm believer in the idea that men like to chase and women like to be chased. I’m not saying that a man wouldn’t be flattered to have a woman ask him out, but in general, THEY prefer to do the chasing, and feel like they’ve “caught” you.
Paul (my husband) says that all women need to do is send ONE clear signal. EX: Smile and say “You’re funny! I’d love to see you again. Here’s my number”. Then leave it. Don’t chase him. Don’t send him a funny e-mail in case he lost your number. Don’t call him yourself. If he is interested, he will call you. If he isn’t, he wont. Simple as that. You can’t MAKE a guy be interested.
From my own experience, and from what I’ve seen happen with friends, when women chase a guy, it rarely works. There’s always a REASON he doesn’t call. Don’t push it or try to force the issue/change his mind.
My 2 cents.
🙂
Joanne
Hi Christina!
I hope you don’t mind that I’ve been reading your blog (Mel’s links to it)
Just wanted to chime in on the asking guys out thing.
My take? Don’t do it. I’m a firm believer in the idea that men like to chase and women like to be chased. I’m not saying that a man wouldn’t be flattered to have a woman ask him out, but in general, THEY prefer to do the chasing, and feel like they’ve “caught” you.
Paul (my husband) says that all women need to do is send ONE clear signal. EX: Smile and say “You’re funny! I’d love to see you again. Here’s my number”. Then leave it. Don’t chase him. Don’t send him a funny e-mail in case he lost your number. Don’t call him yourself. If he is interested, he will call you. If he isn’t, he wont. Simple as that. You can’t MAKE a guy be interested.
From my own experience, and from what I’ve seen happen with friends, when women chase a guy, it rarely works. There’s always a REASON he doesn’t call. Don’t push it or try to force the issue/change his mind.
My 2 cents.
🙂
oasis1223
Hey Joanne!
Thanks, it’s totally fine that you read it. It makes me happy to have people respond to what I write, too. I appreciate that, in fact!
I completely agree with you and Paul — and the validation means a lot to me. I know I don’t know how to play the game well, and make absolutely sure the signal was given but I think I did what I feel is most ‘natural’ for me.
Plus, I did make sure to let him know I enjoyed dinner… I think the ball’s in his court. And my friend who thinks I should chase. No thanks. Not me, I don’t want a guy that I ‘get’ because I chased. I want to BE chased.
Fortunately with this particular guy it’s a moot point right now as he’s away for ~2 weeks. So if I get a call and a second date, I get a call. If not, a guy who will pursue me will come along. Heh. Or future plans will lead to me being able to move to a different place in, oh, 2 years…
😀
oasis1223
Hey Joanne!
Thanks, it’s totally fine that you read it. It makes me happy to have people respond to what I write, too. I appreciate that, in fact!
I completely agree with you and Paul — and the validation means a lot to me. I know I don’t know how to play the game well, and make absolutely sure the signal was given but I think I did what I feel is most ‘natural’ for me.
Plus, I did make sure to let him know I enjoyed dinner… I think the ball’s in his court. And my friend who thinks I should chase. No thanks. Not me, I don’t want a guy that I ‘get’ because I chased. I want to BE chased.
Fortunately with this particular guy it’s a moot point right now as he’s away for ~2 weeks. So if I get a call and a second date, I get a call. If not, a guy who will pursue me will come along. Heh. Or future plans will lead to me being able to move to a different place in, oh, 2 years…
😀