Rambling Thoughts
Christina
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Tonight has been a night of random conversations. I’ve pretty much been in communication with people since the evening started. I’ve had the chance to catch up with old friends, hang out with new ones and ponder life with close friends.
And it’s been an interesting evening. Last night I was really frustrated with a book. Of those people who read the book “He’s Just Not That Into You” how many of you loved the book? Hated it? I don’t know where I stand yet. But I do stand at frustrated with it. Mostly because I could cite examples for every single section from men that I know. In fact it seems that even the most happily married men, in their relationships with their wives, could be ‘guilty’ of one section or another — to a greater or lesser degree, perhaps, but still guilty of displaying something that would make one of the authors say ‘ah dump him, he’s just not that into you’. But I was frustrated. Not for any reason of slagging myself for it — quite the contrary — I think I’m worth a great guy. But, it did and does frustrate me because I don’t know that there’s a guy that exists that would meet this book’s criteria!
And I shudder to think of the opposite book. The one about women for men to read. How many of those “rules” have I broken? Do I even know how to play that game? I have no clue. One of my friends called me flirty last week (in a very nice context and it was complimentary — and how I took it too), and though I don’t know how to do it intentionally — most of the time. Okay that’s not completely true, but I will say that I don’t always know when I am flirting. I have no idea how to play the game. To call? To Not? To wait? To ask out? To be ‘busy’ because they didn’t ask out early enough in the week?
It all seems completely ridiculous to me.
Yet tonight, I received a call. I’ve mentioned I’ve received a lot of attention lately, and it’s true. I haven’t chatted with this particular attention giver in a couple of weeks, and due to other aspects, I’m okay with that. Plus, if the aforementioned book is to be believed, I should let him call me — after all if he doesn’t call “He’s just not that into [me]”.
Bah this just complicates things that I’ve been thinking about!
There are certain ways I would sort my life, if I had complete control over situations, yet all I can do is wait see what the next bend in the path brings and hope that the men in my life (or one of them in particular) proves this book wrong because I’m ready to defend them against its the claims. Perhaps I may need to break the “rules”. But how?
lewp
Relationships are so difficult for me. I did enjoy reading your post. I took comfort in knowing I’m not the only soul that’s lost on relationships. Good luck to you.
lewp
Relationships are so difficult for me. I did enjoy reading your post. I took comfort in knowing I’m not the only soul that’s lost on relationships. Good luck to you.
onein36million
Rules are meant to be broken! And I must say that I’m enjoying reading you write about flirting. Seems to me that not so long ago you were commenting that you didn’t know how to do it 🙂
About the book. I’ve read snippets. I think that they’re on to something, but you’re right, there’s no guy out there who would pass all their criteria. I think the book is more meant for picking through and taking with a grain of salt. There are far too many of us (myself included, recall Mr.Coffee last summer?) who don’t perceive big clues that he’s just not that into them. So, learn the clues. Use them as hints. But not as all-out hard rules. Right?
onein36million
Rules are meant to be broken! And I must say that I’m enjoying reading you write about flirting. Seems to me that not so long ago you were commenting that you didn’t know how to do it 🙂
About the book. I’ve read snippets. I think that they’re on to something, but you’re right, there’s no guy out there who would pass all their criteria. I think the book is more meant for picking through and taking with a grain of salt. There are far too many of us (myself included, recall Mr.Coffee last summer?) who don’t perceive big clues that he’s just not that into them. So, learn the clues. Use them as hints. But not as all-out hard rules. Right?
oasis1223
Thanks to both! I agree on the hard and fast rule. In all cases, and it is a good indicator of the more glaring ‘He’s just not that into you’. It’s just the more subtle ‘status of the situation’ I suppose that I’m considering right now. Life’s definitely interesting…
oasis1223
Thanks to both! I agree on the hard and fast rule. In all cases, and it is a good indicator of the more glaring ‘He’s just not that into you’. It’s just the more subtle ‘status of the situation’ I suppose that I’m considering right now. Life’s definitely interesting…